O-nline Dating: To Be or Not To-be (Embarrassed)?

I remember a Sex and the City occurrence where someone asks Miranda if she's 'seeing anyone special,' and her answer can be a self-deprecating bit about how, 'I'm not seeing anyone special, but I am seeing a big pile of un-special people, so if you understand anyone....'Yuk yuk yuk.Later, Carrie turns to Miranda and states, 'What was up with that? I felt like your humor work should've come with a minimum.'Unfortunately, I (and someone else that's simple and inside their thirties) may relate to this need to execute a little stand-up routine when questioned about my social life-particularly when it comes to online dating services-because, well, it is humiliating not to have the 'right' answer (~~'~ I am observing someone/moving in with someone/engaged/married/pregnant.... ~'~~) We all should be losers if we have not found 'usually the one' by now-or better yet, found them in a common way compared to through a we make ourselves feel better by having a love of life about it.It is interesting when people say there is not a stigma attached to online dating anymore. Let us just acknowledge that we all say that since, though it's become quite common to meet someone online, maybe there is still a tiny, little stigma attached to it? It's like saying, 'I'm not great enough to meet anybody in the real life, so I have to resort to attempting to meet somebody online.'Well....I offer we follow Dr. Debbie's advice and adjust our thought process!Let us not be uncomfortable about online dating! The simple truth is, once we become older, our lives are not as conducive to meeting people while they were within our younger days. We are perhaps not in school anymore, and we are starting to outgrow the club scene. It is only a fact that meeting people is harder as you age. And we have to perhaps not be ashamed of a fact. Am I embarrassed that the sky is blue? No...why would I be? I can not help it, the same as I can't help the truth that in my thirties, I'm not going to parties in my own dorm nowadays or assembly guys in my own Psychology 101 class.When I recently became friends with an extremely special couple who're about my age, I asked them how they met. The person responded, 'We met online,' and the girl explained, 'Oh, it's the greatest thing!'No shame.No embarrassment.No comedy routine.'Wow,' I thought. 'I desire to be like them.' It was as if meeting online was as natural as meeting at a party or through friends. And do you know what? As of late, it is! Plus, this couple is one of those actually awesome lovers. The woman's as sweet as a key, funny, pretty, and a complete sweetheart. And the person is fine, a gentleman, and one of the kindest people I have met. They're sort of perfect-but perhaps not for the reason that irritating way. What I am saying is, this couple is normal.I think area of the reason we're all a little uncomfortable about online dating is really because we think there are a lot of freaks on the web, therefore are we a fanatic, also? I remember signing onto a particular dating site and seeing a man on the website who I used-to use. He was weird-he was socially awkward, smelled like an ashtray, and wore all black all time. I considered to myself, 'I should only give up right-now if here is the type of person who comes up in my own research'! However you know what? I also discovered the page of one of my old friends from a working school who I often appreciated as being the coolest person there. The position is, there are freaky-deaks everywhere, including most of the areas you are 'purported to' meet your mate (aka your college campus, a club, the produce area at the supermarket....). We may run into these freaks in-the real life, and we may run into them online. But-we could also meet somebody amazing in-the real-world, o-r amazing online. There's actually no difference.We also should realize that, as Dr. Debbie states, dating is hard work! My friends and I joke that each first date may be the same talk over and over, so we should only bring pre-recorded CD's comprising our responses for the requisite first date issues and sit back with a beverage as the person listens: 'I grew up in Long Island. I've an older sister. I work-in manner and I also create. I've lived-in New York City for 10 years.' Sometimes I think to myself, 'If I have to have that discussion one more time...'! But solutions when I've been on amazing first dates and since I was genuinely stoked up about the individual I was with, I was significantly more than happy to answer and ask these questions. These are the occasions when it does not appear to be work at all.Most importantly, we need to realize that moment is a important issue. I am sure we have all had the experience of being o-n a string of bad appointments and then finally-a good one. When I get to that great one, I usually find myself pondering, 'Aaah, for this reason the universe sent me on these bad dates; that was the journey I needed to take in order to get myself here.' It is in those moments when I realize that the universe really does have a program in store for us, and everything will continue to work out just as it is supposed to.So I say we all take a bit of inspiration from your aforementioned happy pair, and the very next time somebody asks us about our social life, we only smile and say, 'I'm doing a little bit of online dating.'No two-drink minimum required.